A very disturbing sign of alienation is a parent that teaches the child they don't have to respect or listen to the other parent. They undermine the other parents authority, and in doing so teach their child a very disturbing lesson.. no need to listen to any authority!
Often, these children grow up with no respect for any type of authority, including the law. Look at our jail cells, they are filled with adults who went through single parent childhoods, likely with parental alienation involved. It would be a very interesting study to find out what precentage exactly...
These children may also have trouble at school or work, listening to any form of authority. The ironic thing is eventualy most of these children stop listening to their alienating parent as well, and the alienating parent may have trouble controlling or protecting them from things like peer pressure, etc.
Sad for children, and sad for all of us living in a society where alienation is rampant!
Without question this is the #1 tool the mother of my now 25 year old daughter used to keep my daughter 100% estranged from me for the last 12 years. The mother would just FEED THE SENSE OF POWER a young teenager can feel by "dissing or ignoring or just totally dis-repecting a parent". The mother used every possible normal everyday difference (i.e. what to buy at the grocery store) that a female 10-12 year old might normally have with a single dad as opportunity to drill into her that "she was her own person and didn't need to be over-powered by her father".
ReplyDeleteWhat's so insane is the mother's endless demand for compliance of the daughter to NOT listen to the father was in fact 100x more controlling of the child than the father could ever imagine being.