Money Matters

A very common form of parental alienation is to involve the children in child support matters or finance matters. There is never any need for this, as it is extermely damaging to the child (as per the many adult children of alienation I've spoken to). The alienator may make the excuse that they are only telling the children the 'truth' or that children should be aware of finances, when in reality the only reason to tell the child about financial issues (ie: who pays for what) or child support is to make themselves look like the victim and the other parent look like they dont' care about the children. Children should be allowed to have a childhood free of these issues! Any parent who loves their children would ensure this and not drag children into their selfish motives of trying to make the other parent look bad.

What these alienating parents will often do is only point out the negatives of finances and never the positives. For example, they would never say 'You should thank you dad for buying you school supplies every year.' or 'That's great that your dad was able to take you to wonderland' , but would rather say 'Your dad is not paying his half of the kazoo payments, I had to pay it all' (note how they make themselves look like the 'hero' and the other parent like the heel) or 'Why would your dad pay for XYZ, he must love child #2 better, or he must be hiding money!'

Financial issues are adult matters. If you love your children, keep them out of it, and tell them only positives of the other parent. Remember that your 'truth' is just that, yours. Other people may see it differently.